Have you ever wondered WHY people turn up late? When I say late, I don't mean being late for work, I mean, late for appointments, as in, appointments with friends.

ALL, if not most of my friends are perpetual late-comers. I wonder if they are only like that when meeting me, or are they like that all the time. Not good you know.

Seriously. It gets me fucking irritated when the person I arranged to meet, turns up late. I always hear people say that its only right that a guy waits for a gal (for what fuck? I also dunno), but hello... Im a gal too, and I HATE it when people are late.

I mean its OK to be 5 - 10 mins late, 15 mins I also can tahan, but anything more than that, you can forget about meeting me already cos YOU ARE LATE!!

I really don't mind if people call in advance to inform you that they are going to be late, at least give me time to hang around before I set off, so I won't end up waiting like some fucking fool. -_-

I don't know what others think about this. I told a friend of mine about how it so irritates me when the friend Im meeting tells me that she JUST LEFT HER HOUSE when Im like already there???!!!

Apparently, this friend of mine, didn't see it as that big an issue. In fact, she feels that Im taking it too seriously. Im NOT ok. Being late for an appointment just goes to show how important you see this meeting as.

Let's look at it this way: You DON'T turn up late for an interview do you? you DON'T spend so many hours deciding what outfit to wear, and what not and end up being LATE for the interview do you??

Same goes meeting with your friends. I mean seriously, what the fuck is the point of fixing a time to meet when you are not intending to keep to it anyway? I seriously DON'T understand why some people have to take THAT long to get prepared to leave the house.

I mean, ok, if you really need to make up, bathe and what not, and you know (you should know how long you normally would take) you are going to take long, then why don't or why can't you start preparing early???

I once went out with a friend who fucking made me wait for almost 2 hours. Yes, as you can guess, that friend's a gal. I really blew my top. I told her to call off the damn thing if she is ssssoooo busy. And guess what? When she FINALLY arrived, she actually STROLLED over, WITHOUT a single bit of remorse. (and she came by MRT.)

Pisses me off. Another thing that really pisses me off big time, is people telling me that they can only meet me like for a while before (or after) they rush off to attend to something or meet someone else.

Again, my point is, if you are so busy, then why bother to even meet? Isn't it better that you go settle your stuff and then we meet another time?

I don't have problems with people "putting aeroplane", but I do have problems with people telling me they can only meet me for an hour or so before they rush off to dunno where.

Its like I have something on in the morning, then Im meeting my parents/friend/boyfriend in the evening or late afternoon, and so in the afternoon for that couple of hours or so, I can SLOT YOU IN. Im NOT a tv program can??

If I can give you an entire day, I expect you to be able to too. If you can't then we can meet another day. No point me going all the way down (waste my time and bus fare some more) to meet you for a couple of hours and then after that? My services are no longer needed and I can just fuck off??

I brought this up with my friend and she says that I demand too much. People don't have the time to meet you all day, but they remember you and want to meet up with you, and so, the next best thing, they meet you for awhile. Duhzz. In other words, take it or leave it. WTF.

Meeting up is about accomodating one another's time/program isn't it?? If you or I can't then re-arrange lahh!! Simple as that. Its not as if Im dying to meet you like that. -_-

And then we have the biggest fools I know of. The smokers category. I seriously don't understand WHY people still do it despite all the education and real life cases that prove the dangers of contracting cancer and many other weird diseases that you probably never knew existed. I once read from somewhere (can't remember where) that a cigarette is a stick of tobacco with a fire at one end, and a fool at the other. How true. What's so good about smearing your lungs with tar? I seriously can't understand.

I don't have that many friends that I hang out with who are smokers. (Lucky for me) This group of people are the most selfish people of the lot. They don't give a damn that you are a non-smoker and hence don't take or even intend to pollute your lungs like the way they do as if its like taking in pure fresh air.

And the biggest problem is, its not that I didn't raise any objections of them smoking in front of me, I raised fierce ones. But they will all tell me to accomodate them. (not forgetting at the expense of my health too)

I don't meet the smoker friends of mine often, and of the few times I meet them, they also tell me the same thing, to accomodate them. Which in other words means, I have been accomodating them ALL THE TIME when we were out together. -_-

I think its easier for a smoker to stop smoking for a few hours for that day only to accomodate their friend who doesn't and do not want to take smoke rite??

I used to think its ok, once in awhile. But seriously. Im getting scared. The number of non-smokers contracting cancer is rising and its really cause for alarm. Besides, 2nd hand smoke is indeed more harmful.

I know I sound very bitchy, quarrelsome, selfish and what not. But seriously, if I do get stricken with cancer (touch wood!) one day, whos going to be the one who is scared shitless?? ME! and my parents maybe. My friends? nah... Whos going to "pity" me and understand how I feel? ME! My friends? nah... Whos going to pay my medical bills? My friends? nah...

Pardon me. I just want to be safe and not sorry. It'll be too late for regrets. (which is the reason why Im meeting them lesser... their smoking habits have seriously become criterias in deciding whether or not to ask them out for coffee... its really that bad, im really very paranoid now.)

Damn. Am I choosing my friends? Yes, I think I am, and people tell me that I shouldn't do that because it's SUPPOSEDLY wrong and its fucked up. SO WHAT? As I choose people, people are also choosing me isn't it? And I think it's only fair.

p/s: I still HATE to see the people I care about smoke. I HATE to see them slowly and (steadfastly) destroying their once healthy and abled bodies bit-by-bit. But I also know that if so many gazallion years of education did not manage to change their mind to take the wiser move, then theres little I can do also.