Sex and such

I was just having this little "naughty" conversation with my colleague the other day about sex and stuff.

We came to this topic about how gals don't always cum and how guys are always able to, and how most of the time, gals are not satisfied (understandable lah huh).

And so, my colleague was just telling me how she nevers and that one should also never tell ya partner that he is too fast and such, basically, never give any negative comments about his performance or worse still, compare him with others. (for obvious (read male ego) reasons)

I agree with the never compare him with others, its ok to do it silently, but not tell him staight in the face, (you wouldn't like it if he did the same to you right?) but I don't understand why we shouldn't be telling him that he should slow down or what not.

I mean, I feel that sex is a two person activity and hence, it requires contribution from both parties, if you think he is too fast, before you can even get in the mood and its over, then we got to voice it out right? No point keeping quiet and then everytime the same thing happens again.

*No wonder gals do not enjoy it as much as guys...*

I know some would argue that hey, if you did that, you would hurt his feelings/ego and what not, but then, if you never told him, then there will never be improvement right? Again, its a two person thing, so both parties should enjoy it, and not only the guy right?

Yeah, sure he might feel offended and such, but if he does care about how you feel, then he shouldn't take it to heart, in fact, I see it as comments on how to improve, and not a personal attack.

I forgot to add, if he happens to be one hell of a selfish slob, who cares only about his own enjoyment and feelings, then he isn't even worth it to speak of in the first place (let's not even get into that).

I think its beats having to fake an orgasm, and then avoid it altogether the next time he propositions.

Food for thought:

A friend of mine once told me that a vibrator is more reliable than a man, it lasts as long as you needs it to and it wouldn't run away after the "job".