With due respect, I beg to differ

Yes, I am going to watch Brokeback Mountain again. Ha! (ya, I know, I know, AGAIN...) If its still screening that is.

Anyways.

I was just thinking of this one question the other day.

I went to watch Brokeback Mountain with Wanyi last week, and well, there was this particular scene where the male lead Ennis (played by Heath Ledger) wife (played by Michelle Williams) caught her husband kissing his gay boyfriend PASSIONATELY in front of their home.

Well, of course, when she saw that, she was very shocked/disturbed/angry/heart-broken, but she chose to keep mum about it, and tried all ways (in vain) to try to keep her husband from hanging out with his gay boyfriend alone by inviting his gay bf to have coffee and finally tried (in vain) to get her husband home early by asking him to buy her cigarettes.

Ok, a little digression here. Anyways.

At this point, I asked Wanyi: "What if one day, you found out that your husband was gay, and you caught him erm... making out with another guy??" She told me she wouldn't be able to take it, and would kill herself. -_-

I asked a few other of my female friends this question and all their answers were similar to Wanyi's. Well, maybe not the kill themselves part, but not being able to take it, emotional scar, yadah yadah... something to that effect. Makes me feel like asking that question is like asking a stupid question.

You know, the funny thing is (I mean "weird" funny and not "haha" funny), all the females I've "interviewed" on the above matter said that if they had to choose, they would rather their husband's lover was a gal instead.

Well, one of my friends threw the question back at me, and added, "you wouldn't react in the same way meh?"

That got me thinking a little. I ah well, didn't reply her, and she took it that my ans meant yes, I would react the same way as they would. I let it go.

Actually, I didn't reply her NOT beacuse I agree with theirs or her answer. On the contary, my answer is the direct opposite of theirs, and I didn't reply her cos I really didn't want to get engaged in a debate/argument/discussion on the said topic, which is likely to lead us to nowhere.

Yes, I beg to differ.

If I were to find out that my husband's gay, or if I caught him making out with another guy, I wouldn't react THAT strongly to it as compared to if I were to catch him with a female lover. I know most of you would probably think that I'm lying, and all that, but understand where Im coming from.

If my husband cheated on me with another gal, it would make me feel that I've failed my duty as a wife/gal and hence he had to go out there to find himself another gal, a replacement for my role/duty/job as a wife.

However, if he cheated on me with another guy, I would be able to accept it because it would just mean that well, he is unable to appreciate gals, and not that I'm not good enough for him.

Of course, some may argue that its because you are not good enough for him that's why he ended up gay, and that I'm mad and talking rubbish, but heck, what the fuck do they know anyway?

Let's look at it this way:

Scenario 1: Let's say you cooked him a bowl of maggi noodles, and he refused to eat, telling you he doesn't like to eat maggi mee and all that, but a minute later, he cooks himself a bowl of maggi mee, now how would you feel about that??

That, is akin to him cheating on you with a gal lover.

Scenario 2: Again, you cooked him a bowl of maggi mee, and he refused to eat, again telling you how he hates maggi mee and all that, a minute later, you catch him cooking himself a plate of spaghetti. Doesn't feel that bad as in scenario 1 to me.

How about another example:

Scenario 1: You work for your boss as a Sales Director, in charge of sales some advertising and some marcomm. If one day, your boss advertises to look for a sales director, you would know that he wants to replace you cos maybe you are not good enough to him and you wonder what was wrong with you or your work.

Scenario 2: However, if he advertises for a Marcomm Director, the feeling is not so bad despite the fact that the new colleague will be in the same department as you and would take over some of your current duties rite?

Now scenario 1 is the instance where your husband's lover is a gal, and scenario 2, the opposite.

Well, I'm just putting it in perspective, and that's how I really feel. You may think I'm spouting nonsense and all, but well, with all due respect, I just beg to differ.

What do you think gals??

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On a different note.

Yes, I'm going to watch Brokeback Mountain again, and would buy the DVD when its out, whether or not people say I'm mad or that the movie sucks. I have nothing against gays, and am totally comfortable with the topic or even seeing them on screen and what not.

You know, have you ever come across a movie that, after watching it, you may not know what is it trying to say, but later when you get older, you watch it again, and you derive a different meaning from it, or lets say, it touches you in another way?

Such is the type of movie Brokeback Mountain is.

But at the end of the day, its all about how you look at it and how open you keep your mind.

Anyways.